Staying With Yourself in Love

Molly Hall About.com
Staying With Yourself in Love
Monday September 27, 2010


Back when I was doing Tarot/astrology readings full time, I noticed some patterns. One was that women would often come in almost distraught over a newish love. Everything had been going great; the guy was attentive and attuned to her, then there was a subtle, but profound shift.

It was a crossroads, where the guy was settling back into his own rhythm, and it was the woman who had to adapt. He wasn't in tune with her, and was setting the tone of the relationship. It's a vulnerable point, where the woman has to decide whether she stays with herself, or plays off his rhythm (his wants and needs). With so much conditioning to deny our basic natures and emotional needs, often it's the latter. And women out of their own groove lose their power and sense of self.

In a reading this morning a Taurus Sun friend made the remark that it's when she adapts to the situation or a person's vibe, that's when she gets into trouble. It's a lesson I've learned over and over again. The astrology of our own birth chart is a way to understand that unique rhythm, and honor it. Through self-awareness, you stay in your power and accept the natures of others.

The Moon is in Taurus, waning to a Libra New Moon (October 7th) before waxing again to Full in Aries (October 22nd). There's a driving force, with this cardinal energy, to live fully activated in our own unique rhythm, within the give and take of relationship. It's a great time to celebrate your uniqueness, laid out in the one-of-a-kind blueprint of your whole birth chart. You might reflect on when you've lost yourself, and when you've really shined in relationship -- what made the difference. Venus-Mars in Scorpio, and Plutonian energies (a Sun-Pluto square on Sept 30th), uncover what's buried, that keeps us from that ideal.

Through self-awareness, you stay in your power and accept the natures of others.


That's a very potent statement because when you do 'fall' in love, the first thing that seems to go is your self-awareness. I've found being a Taurean and sensitive, that the hardest thing to do inside a relationship is to stay true to who I am. I lose myself and it usually doesn't bode well for the longevity of the partnership.

It's a great time to celebrate your uniqueness.... You might reflect on when you've lost yourself, and when you've really shined in relationship -- what made the difference.

Perhaps this should really be a question because it is highly worth investigating - what did make the difference? Is it when we're happy because we're being our authentic selves and attracting someone who matches and complements our soul expression? Is it when love comes effortlessly because of who we are and not what we can give to the other person? Is there a lesson in there about the nature of love and where it comes from?